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Hey Esse Family, for today's blog post I am coming to you with something that's very personal to me, not only because I've gone through such a phase and very intensively thought over it for a couple of years, but also because I am a certified Love junkie, you could ask anyone they'll vouch for me lol. So anyway, I love to take time out to learn a lot about everything related to relationships and love for myself. And today I'm sharing what I've come to learn up until now. I'll start by saying I'm writing this for people searching for serious and meaningful romantic relationships, not just a fun time or something to entertain, excite and make you feel valid, because I've also learned that there are people that just want relationships for validation and that quite frankly is not healthy, but also another blog post altogether. This is for that man, woman, girl, or boy that's been contemplating the decision to get into something serious with someone or just be open to the idea. You may have gotten out of something and are trying to give it another go. You may have never been in any relationship or anything real at least, or you could have also been away from the love and commitment scene for a while, and are trying to hop back in. I'm here to give you a few things to think about before you go on ahead. So firstly, How Are You? I bet you are "doing okay", or you're "just great" or you're plainly "fine", but when I ask "how are you", I'm not trying to know how life's been for you, though I do hope it's been good. I'm however trying to know how you, as an individual, are. Are you okay, at least enough for what a relationship requires, more so a romantic relationship? Have you taken some time to carry out intensive introspection, very often it doesn't even have to be intense because it's stuff that's right at the surface, and we need not look any deeper. What's your mental, emotional, physical, and or spiritual state? Look, this isn't to say being in a bad or just not-so-good place mentally, emotionally, physically, or spiritually destroys all hopes for a real relationship. It just means you have a lot more to consider, for your sake and the sake of the other person. Coming to admission reduces how hard going forward with any relationship would be for both of you. Having a hard time with any of this happens to the majority of us, and it doesn't just become better overnight, it can take a while to overcome. But when you know you have something that needs attention and help, and you come to an acceptance of it, how you go about the attempt to start or continue dating is completely dependent on the situation's complexity and your overall outlook and approach toward it. Let me simplify this and get more practical. If you are dealing with, trust, abandonment, rejection, depression, illness, faithlessness, or any other issues, you should first start by accepting it exists, this makes it easier to deal with either on your own or with a partner. Like I said, dealing with these things doesn't mean you aren't able to be in a relationship, it just means you have to consider what carrying these burdens and trying to fix them means for you, your partner, and more especially the relationship as a whole. If you are going to be in a relationship, and you aren't okay, you and your partner will have to be fully aware of this, you will have to tell them you are struggling with ____ because this keeps transparency and accountability present and functioning, which is very important. You might be asking, "why does it have to be this intense? It's not that deep.", well it doesn't, if, you are willing to get better enough and deal with your issues before you commit to someone. But if you aren't, which is true for many of us. Ignoring this can cause a lot of harm, relationships aren't like mere partnerships or transactions of fuzzy warm feelings, there is a lot of "because you... I...", which means, however, "you are", has repercussions for a functioning relationship, your state has a positive or negative effect on the whole thing, and for those not-so-rosy days, when your illness, sadness, anxiety, anger, or depression kicks in, both of you have to have acknowledged that you're struggling with something, this makes room for aid, and not ridicule or conflict. It's not fair for a party in a relationship to have to constantly deal with issues they aren't aware of in the first place, only because you chose not to share it. If you aren't willing to share these issues in a relationship and make these things known, it's better for you to not get into one at all, at least only until you are quote on quote 'healed'. Again, it's not fair to keep away from your partner the things you struggle with because that puts a lot of strain on both your and your partner's capability to contribute to the relationship. I hope that made sense. P.S - No this is not a first date topic, give it a while, they might not be the one lol. Please don't tell someone's daughter or son you are suffering from depression on your first date. Get a little warmed up to each other first, lol you could scare them away. Secondly, Why Are You? As I said, if you're looking for anything but a "serious relationship blog post" this is not the one for you. But if you're looking for something substantial, you're at the right place. So before you do participate next cuffing season, take some time to think about it, a serious relationship should be one with the ultimate goal of marriage and a lifetime spent together. Many people know this and claim to want it when the truth is, all they want from the relationship, is the status "taken", or the sweet messages and gestures that are often associated with being in a relationship, you know, the "good mornings/nights", the "I love yous", the "I miss yous", the hugs, the hand holding and all that good stuff, forgetting every hard thing that comes along with the easy things, we'll talk about those later in this post. But many times it's not even to get some sort of delight or excitement from the relationships, sometimes all we are looking for is: An escape- A way to run away from the issues we don't want to fix or fear facing. Validation- Being liked enough to be called someone's partner makes us feel accepted or affirmed or approved. Completion- A way to somehow be whole (which is not even possible). Relevance- Being wanted may mean you're doing something right. Inclusion- we want to be part of the love or "couple's reel" trends, the engagements, and the celebrations. Almost like being amongst it all makes us part of something bigger than ourselves. Some of these things are true and to a certain degree, necessary, being in a relationship could make you "feel" valid, or relevant, it could lessen the burden of worrying about some tough things you've had to deal with on your own, and it does include you into a certain group of people, but these aren't the sole purposes of a relationship, they don't even sum up the entire concept well. Having these as the sole reasons for your involvement with people is dangerous to you, your partner, and the entire relationship. So stop yourself in your tracks, take a seat and think first "do I want to be in a relationship for healthy and right reasons?" And if you do, then you're good to go. Before I get misquoted, I say they are necessary because facts are, you want to feel valuable, relevant, as well as valid to the relationship, the complete opposite of that is alarming. And yes, getting into a relationship should play a major role in making your problems lighter because you're not to deal with them alone anymore, but viewing these things as independent reasons to get into a relationship will be detrimental. Thirdly, Who Are You? I think this has been my biggest reason for not getting into relationships quickly, I can have the tendency to abandon or quench my individuality to serve relationships. And I've seen it happen over time, people changing who they are to meet the needs and/or standards of a potential mate. And people use the excuse, "compromise", for the reason they change. But I think if you're going to say "it's compromise", then you're in actual sense contradicting yourself. I believe compromise in relationships exists for the sole purpose of highlighting raw individuality that's accepted and known but occasionally set aside for personality accommodation and love's sake. So no, the point to compromise is not to take away your love for music, sport, or travel because your partner doesn't fancy the lot, its to more often go out of your way, or make room to accustom your partner's individuality as well, not leave the entire path behind. Before you go and date somebody, make sure you're rooted in your identity and you're perfectly fine and accepting of everything that makes you who you are. The "you make me a better person" bit of relationships applies only to the character and not the personality. Don't go changing the very essence of who you are for the sake of a relationship, a couple of years down the line you'll realize that it wasn't worth it and you'll have to start finding yourself again, there's already so much self-discovery you're going to have to keep experiencing in your life even as you navigate your relationship, and that only happens naturally and healthily when you're well aware and assenting of who you currently are, so you don't want to ruin that. For that person that's not so sure of who they are yet because there are many of us that just aren't sure of exactly who we are, start discovering that and don't let relationships hinder that process. If you are going to get into a relationship and still pursue self-understanding or self-discovery/development, be sure not to sabotage that process by trying to be what your partner would prefer you to be. If you're well aware of who you are and are at no risk of losing yourself to a relationship, you're in the right direction. And last but not least, Are You? Ready To Trust- Are you ready to trust the person, even with the risk of them one day proving to not have been worthy of it, or even though your past experiences make it hard for you to do so? If you're going to put effort into anything in a relationship, it's going to be into trust. If you're going to be with someone but keep an eye open or one foot out the door, you're better off without them really. That's too much for anyone. You might find it hard to trust, but you will have to actively try. Ready To sacrifice- Let me tell you this, you're going to have to give up and go out of your way a lot of times. And you're going to have to get used to making room for what your partner wants too. Are you sure you're ready to make actual sacrifices? Ready To Give- Are you ready to continuously pour from your cup into another's? Are you willing to give your time, attention, and affection to the relationship? Ready To Share- You will have to share your heart, mind, your interests, and your world with this person. By heart I mean the things you treasure, by mind I mean the way you think, your ideas, and your dreams, by world I mean the way you view life, are you ready to eventually open that much of yourself to the relationship? Ready To Talk- Communicate, and do it well. Are you ready to say what's bothering you, air your views and opinions, and say what you appreciate and what you don't? Ready To Listen- Are you ready to be an active listener, an active listener isn't just someone that can hear and comprehend what's being spoken, but someone that can also accommodate it. Will you be able to treat what you hear as though it was coming from your mouth? Ready to keep Choosing them- Love is a Choice and one you're going to have to keep making every day, you might not feel the butterflies in your stomach or get goosebumps as often, but are you ready to keep choosing to love them in spite of how you feel that day, week, month, year or season? Ready To Forgive- I don't mean take back a cheater or an abuser (female or male). I mean are you ready to continuously show grace when you get offended or hurt? Your partner is the person you will be around the most, which increases the chance of offense, misunderstanding, and mistakes. You can't walk out of relationships after any minor inconvenience, you'd be leaving hundreds of them. Remember you're human too and when you slip up, you'll need that grace too. Ready To Learn- I'm of the belief, many of the things mentioned prior to this point are things you'll probably have to learn and get a hang of with time. Learning how to accommodate another person and everything they come with as well as learning how to let them accommodate you and everything you come with, is something you're going to have to be ready to do. Constantly accepting that you don't know everything there is to know about relationships, more especially your own, is important because no one ever really does. It's an ongoing process, that will require you to admit when you're wrong and don't know what you thought you knew. Just be ready for the lessons that relationships teach you because the honest truth is some of those lessons are very hard. So, Are You Really Ready For A Relationship? If you aren't that's okay, you will. If you are, kudos to you. Let me add though, that being ready for a relationship or the dating scene, doesn't disqualify the chances of heartbreak from disappointment or unexpected occurrences. Life, my friend, is very sneaky, and even if it doesn't have the happy ending you imagined it to, it's probably just not yet here. I hope something in here helped, If it sounds super complex and involving, it's only because relationships, real ones at best, are not walks in the park. It can take a lot of external and internal effort to make them as easy as we picture and would love them to be. But if you ask me though, I really hope you're ready or you get ready soon. I want you to experience a steady and healthy love life (not forgetting one with God at the center), I'm rooting for you. Always!

“Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” - Romans 12-12 Prayer, consistent prayer. I've personally had quite the struggle with prayer myself and staying in consistent communication with God. So writing this makes it easier to not only help my readers but also to help myself. I'll start by saying if you ever feel like you're the only one that struggles with consistency in prayer you aren't, but if you already know that there are many of us then you are part of the few that are trying to change that. I've done everything I've either thought to be important or vital in aiding my prayer life and many of the ways I went about it weren't all the way effective because It's either there was something I was doing that I shouldn't have been or something I wasn't doing but should have. WAYS TO PRAY CONSISTENTLY. So without taking too much time, let's get right into some of the ways to pray consistently. 1. DEDICATE TIME TO PRAYER. In the morning, O Lord, You will hear my voice; In the morning I will order my prayer to You and eagerly watch. - Psalms 5:3 Source: https://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/When-To-Pray To be able to pray often and stay consistent it will do you a lot of good to put some time out from your day to pray. Taking some time out in the morning before you start your day or in the evening before you bring your day to an end would make for a perfect way to stay consistent, with morning prayer being my most preferable time of the day to do so, more because chances of concentration are much higher. Make it a devotional or a meditation session, you could encompass the word of God as well as worship music, for the same. Find a private place to do this and because it can feel difficult in the beginning, try as hard as you can to do it every day until it becomes a habit and you'll be praying more often than you usually do. 2. USE EVERYDAY MOMENTS OF GRATITUDE. Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.- 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Life can have it's tough moments but there's always a time and moment to be grateful for. Those small and big things in or about our lives that bring us joy, peace, fulfilment, contentment, assurance, and more. Using those times to speak to God and express your gratitude will help you with nurturing a more consistent prayer life. The truth is there's always something to be grateful for, so being able to acknowledge those very things and then give thanks to God for them regularly will increase the time you spend in communion with him. Prayer is communication with the father, simply uttering how grateful you are every single time you have something to be thankful for, which to be honest is literally every time, will definitely insure more time spent speaking to God which is ultimately prayer. It doesn't have to be a designated time and a specific place to say an entire prayer for gratitude, this is something you can say where ever you are. It doesn't have to be something you say out loud for people to hear, you could say it in your heart or just whisper a simple "Thank you, Lord". The point is to keep the general idea of being in genuine and constant communication with God a continuous thing and how that very act makes it easier for you to adopt the urge to pray more. 3. READ THE BIBLE. For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.- Hebrews 4:12 Consistency in prayer is almost impossible without actively listening to and reading the word of God. From the word, we learn how, when, why, and where to pray. Constantly being exposed to the word of God will also build in you the longing to pray, and speak to God. The Bible is filled with so many instances of people constantly speaking with or hearing from God, being subjected to the frequency of communication with the Father that's found in the word will have the same effect on you. I tend to notice that when you spend time hearing from God through his word you find it easier to spend more time speaking back to him. The word is actively changing the minds and hearts of man. 4. PRAY WITH OTHERS. That is, that we may be mutually encouraged by each other's faith, both yours and mine.-Romans 1:12 I've learned that having someone to pray with makes it easier to be more consistent with your prayer life. Being around people that share your faith and beliefs, and having continuous fellowship with them will give you a way to always be in the headspace of prayer. You are more likely to adopt certain behaviors and traits from the people you are around the most, the same goes for when you so when you are around people with whom you can read the bible and pray all the time, you begin to cultivate the culture of prayer. And it surely does become easier. Having either a person or group of people that are after the same spiritual goals as you, people whom you can pray for, with, and receive prayer from, will help keep your prayer life consistent. 5. SUBJECT YOURSELF TO THE THINGS OF GOD MORE. They serve a copy and shadow of the heavenly things. For when Moses was about to erect the tent, he was instructed by God, saying, “See that you make everything according to the pattern that was shown you on the mountain.”-Hebrews 8:5 Here's the truth, there will always be the worldly side and the Godly side, and to be able to have not only the capacity to pray more often but the longing as well, there's more connecting to God and his ways that we will need to do. Listen to more sermons, Christian music, podcasts, and shows, get the audio Bible, and meditate with it. Trying to be able to have constant communication with the father and actually wanting to have it will not come easy if we are pursuing everything that opposes the very nature of God and prayer. I hate to sound very churchy and all but there really is no other way of putting it. What you constantly feed your soul, it will crave more of. 6. ASK FOR GOD TO HELP. One day Jesus was praying in a certain place. When he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.”- Luke 11:1. The disciples asked Jesus to teach them how to pray when they longed to know how, and he taught did. I believe that asking God to help or teach you how to pray and pray more is the best way to have a consistent prayer life. And that's one of the beauties of prayer, that we can come before the father and ask for help where we need it and he is sure to offer it to us.

WHAT ARE CLASS AND ELEGANCE? The argument is, Class and Elegance are synonyms of each other, versus, they are two completely different aspects altogether. The latter is defined— as the quality of being graceful and stylish in appearance or manner, and the former—as impressive stylishness in appearance or behavior. I also see a very close relationship between the two and if they are different from each other, they are just substitutes for each other. Class and Elegance have attached to them behavioral and visible characteristics. Seeing as we are in the Fashion segment of this blog for this post, we are focusing on the visible aspect of class and elegance, you could call it "Your everyday guide to looking classy and elegant." or "How to give a classy and elegant appearance to your wardrobe" and this doesn't have to be over the top. I share with you very simple ways to add a pinch of class to your regular looks with simple additions and substitutions. 3 FALSE TRUTHS ABOUT CLASS AND ELEGANCE. There are a few negative or infamous beliefs about exhibiting class and elegance with your outfits that people think to be true when in actual sense they are everything but that. Beliefs such as: Classy Outfits are expensive - No, to pull off an outfit that's classy or elegant you do not have to break your bank account trying to purchase very expensive clothing and accessories, very affordable clothes can work just fine in helping you achieve class and elegance. Classy and Elegant outfits are boring - On the contrary, they are very tasteful and add a high value and standard to your overall appearance. Classy and elegant attire is specifically meant for special occasions - That's the falsest of the three truths, hence the title of this blog post, and as we go through this blog post debunking this very false belief, you will see that it is very possible to add a pinch of class to your regular outfits. 6 WAYS TO LOOK CLASSY AND ELEGANT EVERY DAY. 1. WEAR CLOTHES THAT FIT YOU. THE RIGHT SIZE—As simple as this sounds many people are in the habit of wearing clothes that either run a little too big or small on them. Aside from streetwear which comprises many oversized pieces (which by the way are still tailored to fit), wearing clothing that runs a few sizes-small will not flatter you in any genre of fashion let alone regarding class and elegance, the same goes for clothing that runs a few sizes big. THE RIGHT BODY TYPE—Focus more on buying and wearing clothing that complements your body type. Pieces of clothing that are meant for people with an hourglass body type will not flatter a person with, let's say an inverted triangle or oval body shape. And I know we love to follow the trends but we don't all look like IG models and purchasing clothes that are tailor-made to fit that specific body type will not do any good for you and will class and elegance to your style. Go for clothing that is well suited to your body type. 2. WEAR CLASSIC COLOURS, PATTERNS, AND TEXTURES. NEUTRALS— Greys, blacks, whites, and nudes, these colors will always serve as the perfect foundation for many outfits. They tend to go perfectly well with many other colors but remember not all. SOLIDS— Solid colors will make it easier for you to cook up classy outfits, the right shades put together many times create outfits that compliment you very well, reds, pinks, and oranges for people that love to stand out in color will most often go well together. Blues, greens, and yellows are other examples of colors that look well together if properly executed. Blacks, whites, and Greys serve as a really good base or foundation for many if not all outfits especially bright colored pieces. PATTERNS—Patterns like white and black stripes, houndstooth, plaid, animal print, and florals can very well aid a classy and stylish outfit. These will take a lot more effort to pull off a classy style because of how loud a considerable amount of them can be, but there still is a guarantee that they can be made to serve you and give you a classy and elegant feel. TEXTURES— Silk, linen, and satin, right off the bat are some of the most classic pieces of fabric to grace the fashion world, a few pieces of clothing in satin or silk will definitely amp your elegance and classy wardrobe. Genuine or faux leather gives a very rich and classy look to your outfits as well. Other textures like corduroy, cotton, and wool are pretty good picks too. 3. MIX AND MATCH CAUTIOUSLY. So, at this point, you have the right colors of clothing the perfect patterns, prints, and clothing materials how do you put them all together and make them serve you a classy and elegant look? MIX AND MATCH TEXTURES—Textures like silk, linen, and satin can be very well accompanied by cotton fabric. The same goes for leather and cotton or leather and satin or silk. Light textures go well with lighter and heavier ones, but heavier textures for the most part do not always look their best paired with other heavy textures, this is not definite but very probable. You'd prefer to avoid the urge to match them especially if you are in a hurry and are looking for a quick fix. MIX AND MATCH COLOURS—As mentioned earlier, solid colors go pretty well with a lot of other solid colors, right here comes the option to color block but that's an entire post on its own, carefully picking bright colors that compliment each other will give you a very classy and polished look. You could also mix shades of the same color to give you what we call monochromatic outfits, these make for very classy and elegant fits. DO NOT MIX AND MATCH PATTERNS—Mixing and matching patterns will do anything but give you fancy, classy, and elegant outfits, one pattern or printed piece is perfectly fine alongside a solid. 4. DO NOT FORGET SHOES!! I won't go into detail on what shoes you should wear with specific outfits because that's an entire post on its own. But to keep up a classy and elegant look every day you would like to give your flip-flops and crocs some downtime. Leaving the house in crocs, house slippers, or flip-flops will do the least in giving you a very classy and elegant look. An alternative for simple classy footwear would be, open sandals, converse (when going for a classy casual look), loafers, or flat pumps. 5. WEAR CLASSIC ACCESSORIES. WRIST WATCHES — A wristwatch is a must-have accessory for both males and females it does a lot for your appearance and gives you a very classy finishing touch. HANDBAGS AND PURSES— A lady and her handbag are best friends, aside from the fact that you need to have with you a bag to carry your essentials a handbag makes a statement of class and elegance. SUNGLASSES— A good pair of sunglasses ties up the entire look, especially for outdoor functions. JEWELRY—Rings, bracelets, necklaces, earrings, and cufflinks are pieces of jewelry that will take your entire wardrobe an extra mile. They surely do not have to be the most expensive jewelry on the market to give a classy look, but pieces like pearl earrings and necklaces will give you classy looks, and small and simple silver and gold dainty necklaces and bracelets or cufflinks will make you look classy. 6. GET MORE CLASSIC AND TIMELESS BASICS INTO YOUR WARDROBE. There are a few basic and timeless or rather evergreen pieces you'll need and you can add over time to your wardrobe always ensure you have classy outfits all the time. TOPS. BLAZER—A basic black or white blazer should do good for starters and with time you could incorporate more nudes and then brighter colors. Starting out with more subtle colors will ensure more range and diversity in your outfits. TRENCH COATS AND JACKETS AND CARDIGANS—A good leather, bomber jacket, trench coat, and cardigan or kimono will do a really good job to give you an amazing classy casual look. BASIC AND FANCY TOPS, SHIRTS, AND T-SHIRTS—These can range from your average plain cut tops and your button-ups to your fancier and more asymmetric, flared, or ruffled tops and shirts. One of these should do amazing. BOTTOMS. JEANS— You can never go wrong with a good pair of jeans. Jeans are a timeless piece and while you most likely already have some, having different kinds, such as the flared, mom, and boyfriend jeans will stretch your range of outfits. PANTS— These are your basic tailored, palazzo, wide-leg pants, chinos, and or basic trousers. , SKIRTS— From your basic pencil skirt, your maxi-skirt, to your pleated flared skirts. SHOES. HEELS— A good and simple pair of heels to go with many outfits will save you a lot of fancy functions. DRESS SHOES —Your basic dress or smart shoe to make a statement for your suits and work clothes. LOAFERS— Loafers perfectly straddle the line between classy and casual. BOOTS— For men, these could be your regular dress boots or your Chelsea boots and for ladies your ankle or knee-high boots. FLAT PUMPS, MOCCASINS, SANDALS/SLIPPERS, OR BOAT SHOES—These usually pair very well with many outfits these could go with your dresses, skirts, trousers, and shorts. SIMPLE MINIMALIST SNEAKERS— Because we are trying to keep the class in our style, instead of your Air Jordan's or Nike Air max's, you might want to opt for the subtle side of the sneaker world, the classic minimalist kinds and pick ones with subtle colors like white, brown, and black, makes them easy to interchange outfits with. OTHERS. DRESSES—A little black or white dress is an essential piece as well as a simple maxi dress if that's your style. JUMPSUITS— Jumpsuits are some of those pieces that come in many different designs but seldom fail to give class and elegance if worn right. 7. LESS IS MORE. To master the art of class and elegance you'll have to incorporate "the way of the minimalist", bright, and very flashy or overly branded clothing will do very little for you when it comes to class, the same goes for accessories, big, shiny, and over the top is not the way to go about composing classy and elegant attire. You want to tone it down a little, and your outfit will give you class and elegance effortlessly. Subtle and soft is the goal. 8. LESS REVEALING. Many people will not want to hear this one, but to keep a classy look a classy look, modesty will have to be incorporated to a certain degree. We are not talking all the way to church, but showing too much skin will not give you the elegance and class you are trying to achieve. As much as we love those super short dresses and open-chested tops for ladies and those buttoned-down shirts for the gents, to look classy and elegant you'll have to switch them out for something with a lot more surface area lol. EXTRAS 1. WEAR MINIMAL MAKEUP. Dial the face beat down. Unless it's a very huge event, you might want to reduce the heavy makeup, and like mentioned before, for an everyday classy look, less is more. Your average natural no-makeup makeup look is the best fit, or like I always prefer no makeup at all, natural is gold too. 2. KEEP CLEAN AND PRESENTABLE FINGERNAILS AND TOENAILS. Always make sure your nails are clean, trimmed, manicured, or pedicured well. Make sure to fix chipped nails or missing manicure nails by either refilling or taking them all out and getting a fresh set. Just always make sure your fingernails and toenails are always looking their best. 3. KEEP YOUR HAIR PRESENTABLE. Always make sure your hair is in its best shape, it doesn't have to be an expensive hairdo or haircut, it just simply has to be tamed and in place. Keep your hair looking clean and well brushed or combed at all times. And here's a tip for the ladies in case your hair situation is not ideal and you don't have the time to take care of that, a temporary fix to that is to invest in a few head wraps and scarfs to keep yourself looking presentable at any time. Headwraps aren't for the sole purpose of substitution, they can be a very intentional fashion statement and are completely acceptable outside the need for improvising. Just always make sure your mane is tamed. 4. SMELL GOOD. Invest in good quality fragrances and have a signature scent, giving off a very pleasant scent that adds so much to class and elegant presentation. Invest in a good perfume or fragrance if you can spend the coins, a good designer perfume will not only last hours upon hours on your clothing it will make a statement no one will be able to forget. BONUS TIPS. See currentboutique.com for more. Wear the right undergarments, simple seamless and nude colors mostly so they are not seen through whatever clothing you put on. Wear well-fitting bras and briefs. Be sure to steam and Iron your clothing before you wear it, pay attention to details. Take out lint and cotton hanging around from your clothes, and never wear damaged or worn-out clothing. Avoid large logos or fake designer pieces. One or two brand names can look classy, but too many can detract from the sophistication you’re going for. Create a personal uniform with dedicated colors, styles, and textures you like to wear. This kind of focused wardrobe will make it easier to shop and get dressed.